
This week I have been reminded of how our friendships need to be fed - both literally and figuratively, both good and not so good.
My friend Charles has colon cancer. His diet now is something new to me, this non-residue diet that is the opposite of the way all of us strive to eat. No fiber, no whole grains, no beans, no raw fruit or vegetables. So I'm trying to research recipes for him, so he'll at least have something tastier than boiled chicken and white rice. Next week is his birthday party, and I'm thrilled to be doing the cooking. I'm feeding our friendship, literally and figuratively.
My friend George's father was hit by a car the other day, and is in the hospital. George's mother just had surgery on her shoulder and can't move her right arm (what's that saying - when it rains, it pours?). So yesterday I spent hours cooking for her so she'll have some food in her kitchen when she comes home from visiting at the hospital. I dropped the food off to her late yesterday, and her smile let me know I was feeding more than just her stomach.
Last night 7 of us went out to eat at Joe's Shanghai in Chinatown to celebrate my friend and co-worker Raquel's 30th birthday. It was a happy occasion made even happier by good food and great company. Raquel's delight at being with friends still has me smiling. (that's all of us at the top of the page)
When we cook for the people we care about, we're doing so much more than just providing sustenance, we're feeding and nurturing relationships that mean the world to us.
So cook something for someone you love. It doesn't have to be gourmet or fancy or unusual and different. And if you really can't bring yourself to turn on the stove, go out and break bread together. Just make sure no matter how you partake, you add a big heaping cup of caring.